Wanting to do well
at pitching strikes
and striking them out
not letting them get a hit.
The life of a pitcher…
Wanting to do well
at pitching strikes
and striking them out
not letting them get a hit.
The life of a pitcher…
Last night, my son had a baseball game. Husband was coaching. I was running the dugout. Our boys faced a tough team and played hard. Our son had a good game but made some mistakes that don’t usually happen. He was upset.
On the way home in the car, it was just the two of us. We were quiet for a few minutes, just relaxing and downloading all that had happened. Something prompted me to say, “I am proud of you”. I saw his stress start to melt away. He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “Why would you be proud of me?”
I told him that he doesn’t have to do anything spectacular on that field for me to be proud of him. As long as he tries his best, I will always be proud.
I reminded him that baseball is a tough sport. There is a very good chance you will strike out, drop a ball, miss a grounder, or be called out at a base. It is ok. You will not be perfect every time.
There were some good things that happened on the field. He had some good plays and hits, so we focused on those. I reminded him that the rest of the player development will come… just to keep working hard.
The conversation could have gone a very different way in the car on the way home. We could have focused on all that went wrong and how we were going to make it better, but instead, he needed to hear that I was proud. And my words made a difference.
Later he told me that those words made him feel better about himself. I hope so. I don’t want his self-worth to be dependent upon his performance on the field. He has a lot of heart, he loves the game, and as long as he is having fun and trying hard… I will ALWAYS be proud.
Tomorrow is a new day.
It’s hard to imagine that our baseball coaches are simply volunteers. There is a great deal of love, passion, and time that goes into a season. My husband loves being able to coach. I love being able to help. One of my many responsibilities as a Team Mom is that I get to run drills with the boys on the field, I also do administrative stuff for my hubby/coach since he has a full time job, but I think my most important job is that I run the dugout. For every game.
A lot happens in the dugout. It is a very adventurous place. Our son is now 11 years old, but when he and his teammaues were 9/10 and younger, I found it was important to be in the dugout. I end up being the batting order coordinator, counselor, cheerleader, photographer, motivational speaker, nurse, aka boo boo fixer, monitor of boys climbing the fence, and trying to make sure none of the players swings a bat in the dugout. I also am a “bat runner” or “bat girl” if you prefer. It is fun but you have to stay on your toes. I have to be prepared.
I make sure I have these important items in my trusty Team Mom Bag:
First Aid Kit
Pens for my husband/Coach who always tends to forget his
Game Schedule/Snack Schedule
I will always have a first aid kit with me for those moments where anything can happen. Blisters, cuts, scrapes, bumps, and bruises. This is also why I will bring a few ice packs. (Summer Baseball is an entirely different situation… more on this later.)
Our park has asked our players to fill out medical forms in case of emergency. I will always have those with me in a folder or notebook.
I will always bring a few extra water bottles and snack bars in case someone is starving in the dugout, or forgot to bring their water bottle. Especially those who are running from somewhere else or forgot to eat breakfast. Keeping in mind food allergies.
I always have a copy of the game schedule either in writing or on my phone because someone will almost always ask me about an upcoming game or when they are supposed to bring snack.
But, like I said I help out in the dugout, every game. As the coach’s wife, he puts me to the task and trusts I will handle it.
The first couple of games are the funniest because the boys are still bonding as a team, and learning so much. Some are climbing on everything, and some are throwing balls and/or swinging bats. This is my job to monitor (prevent) all of this.
As the “batting order coordinator” so I have to have those boys ready to go on deck or up to bat. No matter what. It takes a game or two to get them to understand the timing of all of this. When the boys were younger, sometimes it took 2 of us in the dugout… 1 for crowd control and 1 for batting order.
The first couple of games, our players can get so nervous. I teach them to cheer each other on. Sometimes things on the field don’t always go their way and this is an important lesson to learn. If one of our players strikes out, I will teach they boys that as that player comes back to the dugout, that are met by their team with pats on the back and a “it’s ok, man!” or to give them a High Five. Lift them up when they are down. And to do that throughout the game no matter what. Sometimes just hearing a “you can do it!” from another player can mean so much.
This is so much a part of the game. Lifting each other up when GOOD things happen and lifting each other up when BAD things happen.
Things on the field will not go their way every single time.
Just like life…
When things don’t go our way, it’s always nice to have a teammate, friend, family member to pat us on the back and say, “it’s ok, man!” or give us a high five for at least trying and getting out there and giving good effort.
By the end of the season, the boys are usually connected, they are teammates and friends. They know what is expected of them in the dugout. I don’t have to watch for swinging bats as much…or balls flying through the air, but I will see them give pats on the back and hear them give words of encouragement to their teammate when things didn’t go their way on the field.
Then I have done my job.
Sometimes, baseball is more than just baseball.
As our baseball and softball season is wrapping up, it’s time to start thinking about the End of Season Coaches’ Gifts. Our Coaches put so much time, effort, energy, and hard work into our seasons, we want them to know how MUCH they are APPRECIATED!
My husband and I are on our 12th season of coaching/managing a team. We usually work with 1 or 2 assistant coaches. We never forget any kid that has been on one of our teams. Once you play a game together, there is a bond that never goes away. We’ve seen these players struggle and have seen them succeed. We have lost games together and won games together. Some kids stay with us for several seasons, some age out or try other sports. Either way. They will always be special to us.
I am the one with the camera. I take A TON of pictures throughout our seasons. I present these pictures AT THE END of our seasons for our boys and the coaches. For the boys, I will choose 4 or 5 of the BEST pictures of them in action on the field…catching a ball, throwing, hitting, sliding into base…and put them on a spiral notebook (with scrapbook adhesive) and laminate the cover so they will have a keepsake of our season. They can use this spiral notebook as a journal over the summer or as a notebook in school. Some boys like to show it to their friends. Others like to display it in their room. Either way, I feel it is a proper way to “give back” to these boys and parents for playing on our team and want them to remember a great baseball or softball experience.
For the coaches’ gift, I will take a team picture and put it in a frame and have the players from our team sign it. We have a wall in our basement (a room in which we occupy often) and it shows every season that we have coached. It has every kid that has ever played on our team. I think this gift means a lot to my husband and our coaches because of the investment, memories, and energy involved in a season. Every season has a story. Every season has great memories.
I found these frames at Michael’s and I buy the same one every time. Recently, they were selling these for 70% off (I could not believe my eyes!) so I bought all of them. They are normally $8.99ish but I got them for $2!!!!! T w o dollars!
Since this is a gift from the boys and me to the coaches, the parents will usually collect money on their own and present gift cards to the coaches. This is not something that I as the team mom usually do since I am usually coaching, too (and doing the picture gifts) and I feel weird collecting money for my husband. 🙂 We love what we do.
I will upload the pictures that I have taken to Walgreens and send out the link so the parents can order any extra pictures that they like. Also, it gives them an opportunity to forward on to family members.
I hope you all have a great end to your Spring Season.
And again, a special Thank You to our coaches for EVERYTHING!
Thank you to our coaches who give so much
of their energy and time to helping our kids
learn the game of baseball and softball.
They are VOLUNTEERS, which means that they CHOOSE to be there!
Thank you for teaching good sportsmanship,
not to give up,
and how to be part of a team.
We thank you all so much for everything you do!
Pressure. The pressure that parents put on their kids. It is sad.
Today our 2 kids played 3 games again. 1 baseball/2 softball.
The Situation… Bases loaded… 2 outs… Bottom of the final inning. The team is down by one run. The count is 3-2… The batter hasn’t swung at any of the first 5 pitches. Her parents begin yelling at her to “SWING THE BAT! SWING THE BAT!” She glares at her parents…
On the next pitch, a ball out of the strike zone, a pitch she normally wouldn’t swing at, she started her swing but stopped it… called strike 3 on the check swing! Game Over…
What would have been a base on balls and tie game…
All because her parents were putting heated pressure on her to swing the bat.
I find this sad. This is supposed to be fun.
Last week we heard a coach completely LOSE it on the field because he was SCREAMING at HIS OWN CHILD during a practice! Why? This is supposed to be fun.
We also heard another mom last week, who was a self-proclaimed softball superstar in college, telling her daughter whether or not to swing at a pitch as the ball IS IN MID-FLIGHT!
Why? This is supposed to be fun.
With this tremendous pressure that parents are placing on their kids, it is going to drive them away from doing something they love, or something that they are really good at.
Why can’t they be there to celebrate in the good times and encourage in the bad times?
I wish parents could just enjoy watching their kids play…
At this game today, not only did this girl feel like she let her parents down, she felt like she let her team down. That is too much responsibility for one to have because her parents put tremendous pressure on her to do something she wasn’t comfortable doing… She is a decent hitter and had a good chance to make the right decision at the plate.
My kids have both struggled at the plate recently… it’s been hard for them. But today our daughter went 2-2 in her first game and walked twice in her second game. Why? Because of her HARD WORK! She has been taking extra batting practice and working with “Coach Dad” to get better. She could have easily gotten discouraged and walked away from softball forever! But no! We have encouraged her. She knows that her parents believe in her and support her. NO MATTER WHAT! In good times and in bad times! Today, we CELEBRATED with her! We TRUSTED her and she BLOSSOMED!
There was definitely no screaming involved.
Kids need just their parents to BELIEVE in them!
One day these high pressure parents are going to be surprised at the answer when they ask, “You don’t want to play ball anymore?”